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Life is Better When Shared With Friends

I’m fortunate to have many valued friends in my life. Some of us get together once a month for our writers critique group, where we help each other improve as writers. Collectively, we write non-fiction, memoir, poetry, and an array of fiction.

Regardless of the genre, the important thing is that we encourage one another and share our journey as authors.

Last spring, four of us submitted our work to a national writing competition, with twenty finalists to appear in an anthology.

After waiting months, I was elated when I received notice that they selected my poem. But then I wondered about my friends.

I was afraid to ask, worrying that my joy may cause them pain if they didn’t make the finals as well.

They must have felt the same way, but eventually we learned that all four of us were finalists. How incredible! Even more amazing was that there were hundreds of submissions, yet our work floated to the top.

What a tribute this is to the quality of our writing group and the ability of my friends.

Then we had to wait several more months before finally seeing our work in print.

Art Prize Winners

Earlier this month, we attended a reception to celebrate. Finally, we could hold the printed book in our hands. An unexpected thrill came when people asked me to autograph their copy.

It was great to see my friends’ work in print and for my wife to be present, but even more sweet was to share the experience with my three friends.

Life is truly better when you can share it with others.

The book Imagine This! An ArtPrize Anthology is part of the 2013 Grand Rapids ArtPrize, an international art competition, which sees one million visitors each year.

The book is on sale at several ArtPrize venues and from its publisher, SchulerBooks.

(Don’t buy the book just to read my poem, a Haiku of seventeen syllables and only twelve words it’s hardly a worthwhile purchase. But Jerry’s poem and Jennifer’s and Sally’s essays are definitely worth it.)

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Peter DeHaan writes about biblical Christianity to confront status quo religion and live a life that matters. He seeks a fresh approach to following Jesus through the lens of Scripture, without the baggage of made-up traditions and meaningless practices.

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Puppy Therapy

Last week our daughter came over for the day. Her intent was not so much to see us but to enjoy our air conditioning. Being pregnant and midway through her third trimester, she had added reason to seek relief from the heat.

She didn’t come alone, however, bringing with her Zane, an adorable bundle of energy and delight. Zane, our kids tell us, is our grandpuppy.

In three plus decades of marriage, my wife and I have never had a dog. She is allergic and so is our daughter. Zane, however, is a mix of hypoallergenic breeds (I didn’t know there was such a thing), so it’s all good.

When they arrived, I hugged my daughter and played a bit with Zane. Then I went back to work. Awhile later, Zane showed up in my office, carrying his favorite toy. He wanted to play.

I didn’t need much convincing. Puppy love is so much more inviting than article editing.

At eight pounds, the pup carries a lot of spunk. We soon engaged in a robust game of tug. Eventually, he wearied of the sport and trotted off. Did I mention how cute he is?

He repeated this throughout the day, providing a welcome interruption to my toil. Sometimes he showed up with a new plaything, other times just to be petted, and once or twice for me to merely acknowledge his existence.

Now I understand why animal lovers like to have their dogs at work, especially when their office is at home. Although Zane is too rambunctious to curl up at my feet, I do envision him doing so when he grows older.

I also had a talk with him, explaining that in a few months, I wouldn’t be paying him as much attention, instead focusing on his new baby brother. Though I’ve mentioned this before, I’m not sure he comprehends it.

I didn’t accomplish as much work as I wanted, but it was a good day—a really good day. Puppy therapy can do that.

Peter DeHaan writes about biblical Christianity to confront status quo religion and live a life that matters. He seeks a fresh approach to following Jesus through the lens of Scripture, without the baggage of made-up traditions and meaningless practices.

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Should a Christian Community be Homogeneous or Heterogeneous?

It’s fun to be in the company of likeminded individuals. It’s comfortable to hang out with people similar to us. But are fun and comfortable, necessarily good things? Do they promote personal growth and advance understanding?

Being with people like us?—uniform or at least similar in perspective—is a homogeneous experience. The opposite of homogeneous is heterogeneous. A heterogeneous community is diverse, comprised of dissimilar people.

They might look, talk, dress, or act differently. Perhaps they hail from distinct neighborhoods, cultures, or even countries. They could be rich or poor or somewhere in between.

They might embrace diverging priorities, worldviews, political alliances, or (gasp) even hold to an alternate theology.

How comfortable are we spending time with people who view God differently than we do? Will we bask in a diversity of perspectives or cringe over perceived heresy?

One of the things I learned from visiting 52 churches in a year is the grand variations in Jesus’ family.

Our vastness and distinctions are beautiful. I’m delighted to have had the experience— and I miss it now that it’s over.

I’ve heard that if two people agree on everything, than one of them isn’t needed. We must apply this to church. How can our faith grow if everyone agrees on everything?

Most churches today are homogeneous, but I think we should be heterogeneous. We need to embrace, pursue, and celebrate diversity in our faith communities.

I learn the most from those whose ideas and understanding differ from mine—or even contradict them. It’s not always a fun or comfortable place to be, but I think that’s where Jesus wants us—and where he would be.

Peter DeHaan writes about biblical Christianity to confront status quo religion and live a life that matters. He seeks a fresh approach to following Jesus through the lens of Scripture, without the baggage of made-up traditions and meaningless practices.

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The Long Term Problems with China’s One-Child Policy

In my family, there are a lot of two-children families. My bride and I both came from two-children homes. We have two children ourselves and both of our kids’ spouses hail from two-children families. Plus, my sister has two children.

So my mom has two children and four grandchildren. If the trend continues, she will have eight great-grandchildren.

Contrast this with China’s one-child policy, which has been in place since 1979 (33 years). A child born in China today will be the only child of two parents and the only grandchild of four grandparents.

If the trend continues, he or she will eventually be the only great-grandchild of eight great grandparents. This child will also have no uncles, aunts, cousins, nieces, or nephews.

While this may be an effective means to curb population growth, it has two most negative outcomes:

First, a Chinese child will be the only child of two parents and four grandparents. That means that six people are placing their sole generational focus—good or bad—on that lone child.

There will be a tendency to spoil their only child and grandchild.

And there will be tremendous pressure placed on that child to do well, succeed, get married—and have his or her, one child. That’s a lot of pressure to put on one kid.

In addition, all these overly indulged, “only-child” kids, being the center of their family’s attention, will most likely be narcissistic and selfish.

Second, a Chinese child will be the only grandchild to care for four aging grandparents and later the only child to care for two aging parents.

There will be no siblings or cousins to share these duties. That’s a lot of responsibility to place on one child.

In societies with no procreation limits, parents rightly make their own decisions on the number of offspring, be it ten, two, one, or even none.

That is good and right, but when a whole society is forced to limit themselves to one, the ramifications are significant.

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Peter DeHaan writes about biblical Christianity to confront status quo religion and live a life that matters. He seeks a fresh approach to following Jesus through the lens of Scripture, without the baggage of made-up traditions and meaningless practices.

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The Domino Effect of Home Improvement

This summer my bride and I began working together. This required that we convert an unused bedroom into her office. At the time, she made a reasonable request to paint the room first.

I noted that this would also be an ideal time to replace the carpet. I had planned to ditch the aged 25-year-old carpet throughout our home next year anyway, so we picked out and ordered the carpet for the entire job.

Candy’s office was painted and re-carpeted on schedule. However, re-carpeting the rest of the house set in motion a chain reaction, which I call the domino effect of home improvement.

It was pointed out that before installing the rest of the carpet, it would be preferable to have all the non-carpeted areas redone first, not later. That too had been planned for next year.

However, the existing bathroom cabinets—also planned for replacement in two years—had a larger footprint than what is currently available. So, new cabinets were picked out and installed first.

Between the cabinet replacement and redoing the flooring, both bathrooms have been out of commission for a couple of weeks. (Fortunately, the guest bathroom was still functional.)

Of course, this was an ideal time to repaint the bathrooms.

But, with the flooring tore up, it was the window of opportunity to try to fix the squeaking floors. The list goes on…

In the midst of this, I decided to move my office next to my bride’s, as opposed to being at the opposite end of the house on a different level. This meant buying a new desk since the other one wouldn’t fit in the new room.

At this point, every room in the house—save the guest room — is either in various states of remodeling or is storing furniture from the other rooms.

I think that our home is currently at the peak of disarray and can now anticipate steady movement towards getting back to normal.

As for dominoes, I think I’ve had enough of them for a while.

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Peter DeHaan writes about biblical Christianity to confront status quo religion and live a life that matters. He seeks a fresh approach to following Jesus through the lens of Scripture, without the baggage of made-up traditions and meaningless practices.

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Moving Day, Times Two

Two weeks ago, we (my bride and I) helped children Dan and Kelli move from their apartment to their house. 

They moved a couple carloads the night before and I rented a truck, first to move their items from our house and then to move the furniture from their apartment. 

Kelli’s family brought a truckload of stuff, as well, and we all pitched in to help. 

By the end of the day, everything has moved, but the house was rather chaotic. However, within a week they had everything unpacked and in fine order.

Yesterday, it was time to help Laura and Chris move from one apartment to another. We did the first shift, moving the items that would fit into cars, while the in-laws took the second shift, moving the furniture. 

Initially, I thought we had the easy part. But after six carloads, I wasn’t so sure. 

The old apartment was on the second floor, with a 15-step descent. The new apartment was on the third floor, which had a 26-step assent. 

I estimate that I did 2 to 3,000 steps that day. Since I do 1,000 steps on a step-stepper each day, you’d think I’d be ready. Not so.

They were permitted to move in early, so as we were moving in, many of the other tenants were vacating (it is a college town, so a new batch will be arriving soon.) 

As, I would carry things up the stairs, everyone else was walking up empty handed.

Conversely they would  carry things down, while that direction was empty for me. First, I mused that by teaming up with someone else we would both finish sooner. 

But as I became more tired, I further speculated that if everyone who was moving out, would simply carry a couple boxes up for me (instead of going up empty handed) it would have been done in no time.

Nevertheless, I kept this idea to myself. This gave me time to speculate about all who were moving. A move marks a new beginning, with hopes and expectations for the future. 

It may be into a house, to a nicer apartment, back home, or into something more affordable.

As for me, after helping with two moves in two weeks, it simply reaffirms my hope and expectation to stay exactly where we are!

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Peter DeHaan writes about biblical Christianity to confront status quo religion and live a life that matters. He seeks a fresh approach to following Jesus through the lens of Scripture, without the baggage of made-up traditions and meaningless practices.

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Finally, Some Wedding Photos

On Saturday we had an open house for son Dan and new daughter Kelli. In addition to celebrating their recent nuptials with family and friends, we were also treated to some wedding photos. 

wedding

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Peter DeHaan writes about biblical Christianity to confront status quo religion and live a life that matters. He seeks a fresh approach to following Jesus through the lens of Scripture, without the baggage of made-up traditions and meaningless practices.

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Four Children

Over the weekend it became official. We now have four children

The happy couple, Kelli and Dan, at the rehearsal dinner.

We still waiting for the photos of the wedding itself.  I will post a couple as soon as I receive them!

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Peter DeHaan writes about biblical Christianity to confront status quo religion and live a life that matters. He seeks a fresh approach to following Jesus through the lens of Scripture, without the baggage of made-up traditions and meaningless practices.

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Christmas Recap

  (Back row: Laura & Chris, Dan & Kelli, Front Row: Candy & Peter)

This year our Christmas celebrations began last Saturday with one side of the family, continued Christmas Eve with the other side, and concluded Christmas morning with our kids. 

By 10 a.m., both couples had departed for more family celebrations of their own—but not before snapping this photo.

My bride and I then spent a quiet afternoon napping and watching movies.

I hope that your Christmas was a joyous time, spent with family and friends—along with some time to relax!

But above all, remember that Jesus is the reason for the season!

Happy Birthday, Jesus!

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Peter DeHaan writes about biblical Christianity to confront status quo religion and live a life that matters. He seeks a fresh approach to following Jesus through the lens of Scripture, without the baggage of made-up traditions and meaningless practices.

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The Queen of Desserts

Yesterday, my bride (aka, the Queen of Desserts) went on a Christmas baking frenzy. The preliminary round occurred on Monday, but the main event was on Thursday, sunup to well past sundown cooking extravaganza.

Sadly, I was fasting and unable to assume my normal role of taste tester. I know that she secretly enjoys me hovering around her, waiting to snatch the first of each batch when its finished product emerges. 

She pretends to be irritated, but without my acute taste buds to assist, how will she know that the results are appropriately delectable? 

Sometimes one sample is not enough to discern the overall quality and desirability, so I will need to try a second…and a third if I can get away with it. 

If she’s not paying attention, a fourth sample may disappear as well, but let’s keep that as our secret.

I’m not sure how she managed yesterday without my much-needed assistance, but by 10 pm, she was frosting the last of the cookies and wrapping up for the day.

Today I plan to make up for the lost time and resume my role as a food inspector. 

In fact, just blogging about it is making me salivate…gotta go!

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Peter DeHaan writes about biblical Christianity to confront status quo religion and live a life that matters. He seeks a fresh approach to following Jesus through the lens of Scripture, without the baggage of made-up traditions and meaningless practices.

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