Do You Leave Home or Take it With You?
It was 2014 when my wife and I were selling our house. It wasn’t our plan, but things change.
We had just finished updating most of it: new roof, furnace, windows, carpet, flooring, kitchen, and bathrooms. It was a three-year effort that methodically moved from one project to the next as our budget allowed.
We planned to live the rest of our lives on that house, the place where we raised our kids and the setting of many happy memories.
So, why then we moved? The answer is simple: family. Our son and his wife live about an hour away. It was hard not to be closer to them; the pull was strong. Then our daughter and her husband, along with our grandson, moved, ending up a few miles from her brother. The draw was inescapable.
My wife and I discussed that. Then we asked what our kids thought. They liked the idea, but one instituted a ten-mile buffer, but then reduced it to five, which eventually disappeared.
Our daughter-in-law liked the idea of us living next door, where their kids could walk to grandpa and grandma.
She grew up with that and so did I. Alas, we would not be that close, but we would be within seven miles of each of our kids’ homes.
Now, as we were planning and packing, I recall the things that happened there: the happy times, the struggles we overcame, the celebrations, the milestones, and the friends who visited. But these memories do not reside in this house, they live in our minds.
The house stayed, but our home moved along with us.
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6 replies on “Thoughts About Moving”
I’m happy your kids are so welcoming to you. That’s a huge blessing. We are experiencing grand children withdrawal, because our son-in-law prefers to keep us at a distance. 🙁
I pray that will one day change.
“The house will stay, but our home will move.” Excellent.
“It wasn’t our plan, but things change.” Isn’t that life. . . .
Yes, indeed! It goes to show us that we’re not really in control!